Dependency feelings get a bad press in psychology and counselling.Clients often report concerns that reflect confused understanding of this issue.There is sometimes a conflation of bad dependency with good dependency.Bad dependency has negative consequences (like addictions of various sorts).Good dependency simply involves a meeting of ones natural needs.Good dependency does not involve a sort of psychological paralysis or helplessness or weakness as psychotherapy clients sometimes may fear.There remains autonomy and personal power allied with the flexibility of being able to attach and enjoy.Some may argue that independence can only be properly enjoyed when when has learned to depend in a healthy fashion.True independence involves flexibility and choice.This is sometimes confused with counterdependency which can be seen as psychological/emotional isolation and rigidity.

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